It’s a strange day here on 15th Street NW, and PostScript will postscript on an unusual offering for the op-ed page. Richard Cohen writes that it’s impossible for any of us to know what we would do in Huma Abedin’s shoes. He knows this because of a time when, in a comparable situation, he surprised himself by forgiving a woman, Linda, who’d cheated on him. They continued their relationship, Cohen says, because their situation was much more complicated than people imagine cheating scenarios to be.
(In another strangeness, it’s a big news day, but Cohen’s column is the most-read story on the Web site, though it has only 450 comments at the moment.)
Cohen contends you can’t really evaluate such personal decisions as a reflection of politics, feminism or anything else. Which was immediately proved in the comments, where, despite Cohen’s careful explanations of his own behavior, plenty of people said they would have decided differently.
steve1231 wishes he hadn’t forgiven:
I’ve been there. I’ve done that. I understand the emotionally driven stupidity. Eight years later, after suspecting something for the past year or two, I found definitive proof. I came downstairs the next morning, looked at my wife, and told her I wanted a divorce. That was that, and we moved on with our lives. I just wish I had done it seven years earlier.
sully64 would never have done what Cohen did when he couldn’t reach her on the phone:
Wait a minute! You went over to Linda’s place and climbed in an empty window? I think you may have a problem and need help yourself!
al_faratz would never have trusted such a woman in the first place (One of the reasons, really, that Cohen says he forgave is that the cheater “looked so damned good,” which was the first part of the narrative that made PostScript wince):
Follow this sage advice my son. Never determine on a long term relationship with a beautiful, adventurous woman. Choose a plain woman my son. You will sleep well and enjoy a rewarding life.
yellowroz1 understands that personal choices are personal, but Anthony Weiner showed such abominably careless disregard for Abedin’s dignity — seriously, he barely tried to keep this a secret — that it’s hard to imagine he cares for her all that much:
This is not an issue of their private life. Weiner knew, through painful experience, that sending electronic images was unlikely to remain private; and also knew that the public nature of his act, and of his choice to return to public life, meant he was adding excruciating humiliation to the pain he was already inflicting on his wife – also a public figure – and the mother of his child (who will someday grow up to learn this story of his father).
While in theory no one should judge another relationship, I’m having a hard time imagining a narrative that allows Abedin her self-respect here.
On that note, some commenters feel this column is publicizing the private:
This is an uncomfortably personal column right here. Wow.
And that Cohen is the Weiner of the situation, not the Abedin:
Linda caught Cohen secretly writing newspaper columns about her.
If there’s a real Linda, she’s probably sending her brothers and male cousins to put a whompin’ on RC for spilling her business in public.
Thank goodness, a way for all of this to be settled out of the public eye! Just let the fellas punch it out.