Recently, the Huffington Post reported on a Facebook message received by a woman who was berated for only giving her friend and her new husband $100 as a wedding present.
For last week’s Color of Money Question, I asked: “How would you respond to a couple who thought your wedding gift wasn’t good enough?”
“I would send back a nice card in the mail and say something like, ‘It was fabulous to know you before you were married. Have a nice life,’” wrote Denise Cook of Bargersville, Ind. “And then I would promptly eliminate them from my life until they offered their apology. But as I think it through, you can usually see these people coming a mile away. So, I would be appalled, but probably not surprised,”
Evelyn Nastos of Sykesville, Md., wrote: “This woman is a prime example of what is wrong with our society today. Her sense of entitlement is simply astounding. She is not ‘owed’ anything by anyone. She should not have spent so much money on her wedding if she could not afford to pay for it without relying on ‘gifts.’ Consumerism runs rampant in our world of ‘gimme, gimme’ and this one takes the cake. She is very lucky that she was not my ‘friend’ for I would not have been so polite in my reply as this woman. This would end our friendship since I do not want to pollute my life with a person who would behave in this manner. She should be ashamed.”
Bibi Bissette on Facebook wrote, “I would tell them to give it back so I can give them something better (for me) -- namely NOTHING!!”
Twitter follower SMB @smboatwright tweeted, “I would kindly ask for it back and give them nothing. Ungrateful brats. Sickening, how unappreciative people are these days.”
Zorina E. Bowen @GreenBiotechie wrote: “If my gift was not good enough, then our friendship was not genuine & they would drop to associate status.”
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College Degree Required
Employers are raising education requirements even for entry-level positions.
Thirty-two percent of hiring managers and human resource professionals said they are hiring more employees with college degrees for positions that were historically held by high school graduates, according to a survey by CareerBuilder.
“While some of this may be attributed to a competitive job market that lends itself to college grads taking lower skill jobs, it also speaks to companies raising performance expectations for roles within their firms to enhance overall productivity, product quality and sales,” said Brent Rasmussen, president of CareerBuilder North America.
Can’t Ask for More
Only 31 percent of survey respondents said they negotiated their salary after receiving a job offer, down from 37 percent a year ago, according to a survey by Salary.com.
“As for specific reasons, fear tops the list,” says Salary.com contributing writer Aaron Gouveia. “Twenty-one percent of workers said the main reason they don’t negotiate is because they’re afraid of losing their job or their job offer. Although understandable, most businesses expect a little haggling after they’ve offered you a job, and the biggest red flag raised might be a failure to negotiate. “
Gouveia encourage workers to research what others are being paid in their field before negotiating an increase and to use education and job skills as leverage.
“Being able to effectively communicate your worth to a company is important -- not only for the raise you’re negotiating, but to ensure your company, supervisors and colleagues understand the value you bring to the company,” said Abby Euler, general manager of Salary.com, a provider of career guidance services told Kathy Kristof of CBS Moneywatch.
Color of Money Question of the Week
Has fear kept you from negotiating a higher salary? Send your responses to email@example.com and include your full name, city and state and put “Can’t Ask for More” in the subject line. You can also weigh in at #moneyquest on Twitter.
Tia Lewis contributed to this report.
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