Crossing a party line

Ick: “I attended a neighborhood party at a friend’s house. At some point in the evening I was, unbeknownst to me, videotaped by another neighbor on his cell phone. I found out the next day from the hostess, who had received an email with the video attached and the subject line of ‘Cheers,’ who forwarded the email to me. It had been sent to her and to three other neighbors/friends of mine who had also attended the party.

”She didn’t seem to think there was anything wrong with his doing this, she was just curious to know if I had received it.

”My gut reaction was to feel hurt, angry and violated. I’d like to get a third-party reaction. Is this the way it is now? And should I address this issue with my neighbor?”

What would you do?

— Carolyn Hax

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