Ask Sahaj: My husband’s rigid retirement schedule is so boring

A reader feels guilty about how routine-driven and introverted their newly retired husband is.

By Sahaj Kaur KohliMay 25, 2023

Ask Sahaj: My son wants to invite my abusive ex-husband to his wedding

A parent doesn't want to attend her son's small wedding after he said he wanted to invite her abusive ex-husband and another former partner.

By Sahaj Kaur KohliMay 18, 2023

Ask Sahaj: My job makes me feel like I’ll never be good enough

She always believed "if I worked hard enough, learned enough and accepted all the feedback, I’d be good enough" to get to the top of her employment. Now she's not sure that's true.

By Sahaj Kaur KohliMay 11, 2023

Ask Sahaj: My mom calls me ‘argumentative’ when I confront her racism

A reader searches for ways to protect their "own peace" when their mom makes racist comments.

By Sahaj Kaur KohliMay 4, 2023

Ask Sahaj: My husband yells about how my daughter is a ‘bad mom’

A reader’s husband gets very angry and yells when his adult step-daughter lets her children miss school to go on family vacations.

By Sahaj Kaur KohliApril 27, 2023

Ask Sahaj: How do I stop getting into imaginary arguments about politics?

A reader struggles with repetitive imaginary conversations. Why do they keep playing them out in their head?

By Sahaj Kaur KohliApril 20, 2023

Ask Sahaj: My husband said he’s ‘so happy’ our kids are White-passing

A reader's husband said he was happy their kids are “both fair-skinned” and that he especially loves that the youngest is “blond and blue-eyed.”

By Sahaj Kaur KohliApril 13, 2023

Ask Sahaj: Should I skip my cousin’s wedding to avoid my abusive dad?

Should this reader skip a cousin's wedding to avoid contact with their abusive and estranged father?

By Sahaj Kaur KohliApril 6, 2023

Ask Sahaj: Should I confront my neighbor about his bigoted opinions?

After a conversation with her neighbors, a reader asks about her obligation to "educate ignorant people."

By Sahaj Kaur KohliMarch 30, 2023

Ask Sahaj: My dad refuses to consider moving to assisted living

A reader’s aging father refuses to even consider a move to assisted living for himself or his wife with dementia.

By Sahaj Kaur KohliMarch 23, 2023

Ask Sahaj: I caught my boyfriend cheating. Should I stay with him?

A reader and her boyfriend agreed to be exclusive. She recently discovered he cheated on her for three months.

By Sahaj Kaur KohliMarch 16, 2023

Ask Sahaj: I worry my community judges me for ‘acting like a White girl’

She's a child of immigrants from Hong Kong, but her interests don't seem to "match up" what she believes is expected of her.

By Sahaj Kaur KohliMarch 9, 2023

Ask Sahaj: My in-laws want us to give up our puppy

Her in-laws think she's manipulating her husband, after they adopted a dog against his parents' wishes.

By Sahaj Kaur KohliMarch 2, 2023

Ask Sahaj: My mom wants us to continue to see family who abused her

A letter writer's mother told her about being abused by family when she was a child. Now, the writer's mother wants her to continue to have contact with those family members.

By Sahaj Kaur KohliFebruary 23, 2023

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By Sahaj Kaur KohliFebruary 19, 2023

Ask Sahaj: My boyfriend wants to lie to his parents about living together

A reader's boyfriend wants to move in together but is afraid of his parents' reaction and wants to lie to them.

By Sahaj Kaur KohliFebruary 16, 2023

Ask Sahaj: I feel guilty about my lack of career ambition

A reader feels guilty that most of their motivation for advancement at work is external.

By Sahaj Kaur KohliFebruary 9, 2023

Ask Sahaj: He wants kids, but I don’t. Should we break up?

She has two kids already and isn’t interested in having more. Her boyfriend initially said he didn’t want kids, but now he’s changed his mind.

By Sahaj Kaur KohliFebruary 2, 2023

Ask Sahaj: My daughter wants to limit contact but I keep texting her

A parent struggles to respect their daughter's boundaries after she said she wanted to cut back on contact.

By Sahaj Kaur KohliJanuary 26, 2023

Ask Sahaj: My parents disapprove of how my partner practices our religion

Her parents want her partner to be more orthodox in his religious practices. Should she ask her partner to change for them?

By Sahaj Kaur KohliJanuary 19, 2023