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A therapist took questions on letting go of guilt around housekeeping

Every Thursday at 11 a.m. Eastern time, Jura Koncius takes your questions about home design. (Simone Noronha for The Washington Post)
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Licensed therapist and TikTok star K.C. Davis answered your questions on Thursday about managing guilt around housekeeping. She struggled with doing housework after becoming a mom, when she was dealing with postpartum depression and ADHD. But she realized she was not alone, and came up with an approach to help people keep their homes tidy without feeling guilty about what they were not getting done. Her new book “How to Keep House While Drowning: A Gentle Approach to Cleaning and Organizing” covers topics such as building momentum by cleaning in short bursts and calming rituals that can help you deal with feeling overwhelmed. Her solutions encourage people to let go of perfectionism and help those with mental or physical illness, or who are going through a hard time, have a healthier relationship with their homes.

Here are some of the questions she answered:

Every Thursday at 11 a.m. Eastern time, Jura Koncius helps you in your quest to achieve domestic bliss. She and weekly guests — whether it’s Martha Stewart, Marie Kondo, Jasmine Roth of HGTV, Paula Sutton of Hill House Vintage or TikTok’s Folding Lady, Sophie Liard — answer your decorating, decluttering, design, entertaining and home-keeping questions. For more than 20 years, our Q&A has hosted conversations about how to make your home comfortable, stylish, organized and fun.

Recent Q&As have covered whether it’s okay to replace a tub with a stand-alone shower, how to keep mice out of your house, what to do with a collection of costume jewelry and how to use the steam settings on your washer and dryer.

Read the Q&A below, or check out some of our past discussions. If you have suggestions for Q&A topics, please email me at

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Helen Carefoot, writer and editorial aide for the Lifestyle section, produced this Q&A.