If you could see, I am giving this note some major side eye.
Not because of you, you sound lovely.
But I get a tad cranky when I listen to daycare providers do this to parents, especially at drop-off and pick-up. Like, what are you supposed to do? Their comments just serve to panic and worry, and I don’t hear one speck of solution in here. Hmph.
Here is what I don’t know: your child loves to be wrestled and swung around, and that is totally typical for 17 month old kids! They play and learn through MOVEMENT. But you may want to keep an eye on sensory processing stuff as you child ages. If it seems like your daughter is only increasing in her need to be very physical and she doesn’t seem aware of this need, it is worthwhile to keep in contact with your pediatrician and keep an eye on it. Don’t spin out. Just keep an eye on it.
In terms of what is happening in daycare, it is normal. Seventeen-month-olds are not interested in sharing, nor do they see the toys are everyone else’s. These kids are emotional creatures, they want what they want when they want it, and they are not able to empathize with other’s feelings.
So, this daycare needs to be proactive, period. They need to expect that these children will be possessive and react with that knowledge, as well as set up play that helps the children succeed.