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Carolyn Hax chat: My wife cheated on me. I want the chance to have my own affair.

Most Fridays, advice columnist Carolyn Hax takes your comments and questions. Carolyn has hosted this chat since 1998, answering your wide-ranging questions about life, family, relationships and more. Some questions may be adapted into full columns.

This week’s live chat is over, but you can read a transcript from the discussion below. Carolyn’s next live chat is at 12 p.m. ET on May 21 and you can submit questions here. You can also submit questions for her column by emailing

Here’s a glossary of frequently used chat terms.