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Carolyn Hax: Resources for getting help

I’ve been writing this column since 1997. The following are sources of help that I often recommend to readers. If you would like to suggest others, please write to me at

If you are in a crisis

988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline: Call or text 988

How to find a therapist

(Always exercise due diligence in selecting caregivers.)

· Ask your primary care physician to refer you to someone.

· Call your health insurance carrier or visit them online to get a list of in-network providers.

· See if your employer offers an Employee Assistance Program.

· Use Open Path Collective, a national nonprofit network of therapists who provide sessions at a reduced rate.

· Search the listings on Psychology Today.

· If you or family members have a school affiliation, ask if its counseling service is available to you or maintains a list of recommended mental health-care providers.

· Inquire at your church — many clergy have counseling credentials.

· Contact a local college or university that confers degrees in counseling fields; many have clinics to train their students.

· If you have a specific difficulty, such as grief, addiction, a major illness in the family, debt, etc., then there may be a topic-specific support group.


National Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-799-SAFE (7233)

Rape, Abuse & Incest National Network: 1-800-656-HOPE (4673)

MOSAIC Threat Assessment Systems

One Love Foundation

Mental illness

National Alliance on Mental Illness: The NAMI HelpLine, available Monday-Friday from 10 a.m. to 8 p.m., Eastern time: 1-800-950-NAMI (6264) or

Substance abuse

National Institute on Alcohol Abuse and Alcoholism

Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration

Alcoholics Anonymous

Al-Anon Family Groups

Adult Children of Alcoholics/ Dysfunctional Families

SMART Recovery

Child abuse

Childhelp: 1-800-4-A-CHILD (422-4453)

LGBTQ support

For young people, the Trevor Project: 1-866-488-7386

For families, PFLAG

For all, It Gets Better Project


National Foundation for Credit Counseling


Parent Encouragement Program

Death of a child

Compassionate Friends

Share Pregnancy and Infant Loss Support, Inc.


RESOLVE, the National Infertility Association

Eating disorders

The National Eating Disorders Association

Overeaters Anonymous

Suicide support

Survivors of Suicide

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