How would you navigate this?
— Anxious Annie
Anxious Annie: Here’s how I am navigating this sort of dilemma: I’m doing it by saying “no.” This can be surprisingly hard to do, especially when considering the competing agendas that surface during the holiday season.
I don’t consider myself in a particularly high-risk group, but I interact with others who are. I consider a “no” now to be an investment in a future “yes.”
If your sweetheart decides to take this trip without you, he should be tested just before he goes, maintain safe practice while he is gone (not just temperature taking, but masking, maintaining good ventilation and social distancing), and then he should quarantine elsewhere after he returns and reenter your home only after he has a negative result to a coronavirus result.
You should assume that he will not maintain ideal coronavirus protocol while he is gone, but isolation and testing afterward should ease your mind and might protect your household.
Dear Amy: I have an aunt who is at the end of her life. She may die within a couple of weeks.
I live in a different province, and due to the coronavirus pandemic I won't be able to say goodbye in person or attend the funeral, but I want to send flowers and donate to a charity.
Does the etiquette surrounding flowers/donations change at all? Should anything be sent to the dying person in advance, or should it be treated like a regular passing and flowers be sent to the family after?
— Confused in BC
Confused in BC: Do not send your aunt a funeral spray. But if you think that a beautiful bouquet of her favorite flowers would make her happy (I could imagine that it might), then send them to her.
The most important thing for you to do for your aunt in advance of her death is to let her know how much you love and appreciate her. Whether that is through a card, letter, a video shot on your phone and shown to her — you have the opportunity to tell her that you love her and that she means a lot to you.
After her death, you could send a bouquet or a food basket to her nearby family members, as well as donate to a charity in her memory.
Dear Amy: My daughter graduated from college two years ago, with a biology degree and an desire to attend a physician assistant program.
She did not get in anywhere last year, but I encouraged her to keep trying.
She had been working as a technician for an eye doctor.
Last month, she took a new position and moved across the county to the same town as us. The new job pays so much better, and she is doing well.
The week before she started this new job, she got an interview for a great PA program back East.
Now — a month into her new job — she has been accepted into that PA program. She will have to move across the country and be in place 10 months from now.
The question for you is: When should she notify her new employer that she will be leaving?
Dad: Congratulations to your daughter! Her (and your) persistence paid off.
She should not feel any pressure to announce her plans until she is further along in her current employment. Depending on the culture at the office and her relationship with her employers, I think that giving them six weeks’ notice is generous and ample, giving them time to conduct a search, and for her to potentially help to train her replacement.
Dear Amy: Each day my husband and I read your column, state our answers and then read your response. We're really good. You're better. Your vision is broader.
Your response to "Sick of Being Hit Upon" is modern-day, spot-on perfect, every word.
Thanks for our fun way to start our day.
We're learning and getting better because of your responses.
Betty: Wow! Thank you so much. I owe you two some doughnuts.
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