When people visit for the first time, there's usually a wide-eyed moment of "Wow! This is an amazing house/neighborhood!" I never know if I should just say "thank you" (though I certainly can't take credit for the community's beauty!) or something along the lines of "I know! Aren't we lucky?" or "I'm glad you like it. We do, too!"
I also feel a little self-conscious, thinking that they are wondering how we can afford this, or maybe feeling jealous that we live like this when many of our friends are struggling.
A lot of old neighbors, friends and co-workers are asking to "come by and see the new place," but I'm a little afraid to invite them because I don't know how to behave. (So far, we've just hosted a few close friends and relatives.) How do I entertain without feeling like I'm showing off?
If you have good reason to believe that certain people begrudge you your pleasure in your new house, don’t invite them.
But Miss Manners hopes that you do not assume this to be the natural general reaction. Many people do not regard good fortune as a zero-sum game and actually rejoice in the happiness of others. Really.
However, it is true that you could bring on a bad reaction by behaving as if you were a docent showing off a palace. The important thing is to treat your visitors as guests, not as tourists.
This means first inviting them to sit down and offering some refreshment. Your responses to their admiration of the house and neighborhood are fine, but you should not let this be the only topic of conversation. Tourists come specifically to see and learn about the attraction; guests should know that you also have an interest in them (although this is not the time to talk about their housing).
Eventually, they will ask to see the rest of the house, and you can oblige gracefully. It would be especially charming to ask their advice about any adjustments you contemplate making, which you are not obliged to follow.
Dear Miss Manners: I have a friend (we're in our 60s) who lapses into baby talk. Mostly it is with her cat, and mine, but also in public, if we come across someone with an animal. It's bad enough when she does it in private to our pets, but really annoying in public.
Do I just bite my tongue, or is there a little nudge that would bring this to her attention? I don't think she realizes she is doing it.
Oops. That was not intended as kitty-cat talk, but only to indicate that Miss Manners shares your icky feeling about this. But your friend wasn’t talking to her — or, for that matter, to you. You need only wait it out with a neutral, if not aloof, expression, as the cats are no doubt doing.