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More important than the money spent is the thought put into choosing a present.

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Reader would like recognition for husband’s knighthood.

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After one polite correction, it’s best to let the mistake go

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Reader doesn’t want a new credit card and doesn’t want to explain why.

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Reader is annoyed that close friend’s medical crisis wasn’t quite what it seemed.

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Reader has handmade gift in mind but invitation calls for gift cards.

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Musician wonders whether it’s rude to bring a bottle for hydration.

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Reader is overwhelmed by keeping track of the communication avenues friends prefer.

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Announcing the day isn’t polite after age 12 or so, but you might fold it into conversation.

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Reader asks whether to stay quiet or say “hello.”

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Reader wants to know the appropriate closing for letters.

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Reader has had two friends make the statement and has no idea what to say.

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  • Jun 29
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Couple disagrees on the polite response to food that appears at a party and isn’t eaten.

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Reader asks how to steer the conversation after a failed attempt.

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Reader complains that best friend calls only when driving or walking her dog.

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Finding out about family member’s illnesses or death should be a private matter.

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Reader has been told he should use a title, but he thinks it pretentious.

  • Judith Martin, Nicholas Martin, Jacobina Martin
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  • Jun 18
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Reader wonders how to explain the relationship during introductions.

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Divorced or single? As long as it’s legalized, it doesn’t matter.

  • Judith Martin, Nicholas Martin, Jacobina Martin
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How to respond to praise of mother-in-law, who was never kind to reader.

  • Judith Martin, Nicholas Martin, Jacobina Martin
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