Katie Ridder and Peter Pennoyer’s dramatic dining room at their house in Westchester, N.Y. (Eric Piasecki)

For many overscheduled families, “dining” has been reduced in recent years to grabbing a plate of food at a kitchen island or on an ottoman in front of a screen. Even in homes that have a separate dining room, the table is regularly commandeered for homework or, at this time of year, as a tax-prep command center.

But there are signs that we are heading back to the dinner table, designers say. Their clients are tiring of grabbing meals in the “great room,” a more informal, open space that often accommodates drive-by eating and lounging. Or they’re annoyed with noisy restaurants and want to do more entertaining at home. Many young families are looking for a more structured family dinner hour around a real table.

“Everything is so casual these days, it’s nice to be a bit more formal in a room where you entertain or gather your family,” says Bethesda designer Erica Burns. “The room sets the tone, since there’s no TV in there and hopefully no cellphones. It’s a space focused on conversation and eating.”

A separate dining room is on many homeowners’ wish lists. In the January 2017 Home Buyer Reference survey, 73 percent of those who responded said the dining room was “essential or desirable,” according to a spokeswoman for the National Association of Home Builders.


The dining room in Josh Hildreth’s Wesley Heights home has the unexpected combination of antique English dining chairs with seats upholstered in chartreuse leather. (Stacy Goldberg)

But how do families turn the dining room from a stiff backdrop for elaborate Thanksgiving and Christmas celebrations into a warmer and more approachable space?

“Dining rooms sometimes give people the chills with memories of their parents’ dining rooms filled with brown furniture,” says Josh Hildreth, a Washington designer. “If you want to bring a room like this back, you have to make it useful and fun.”

Reclaiming your dining room

Lots of memorable moments occur in the dining room, yet it’s a space that’s often at the bottom of the list for refreshing or redecorating. We asked designers to share some of their strategies on making this somewhat formal room — that’s often full of inherited furniture — come alive.


A dining room from an Upper East Side townhouse features Katie Ridder’s Pagoda wallpaper and a custom banquette. (Eric Piasecki)

Go for drama. A dining room is a good place to do something dramatic, if that’s your style. “If a client said, ‘I want glazed turquoise walls,’ I’d say we probably should not do that in a room you’re in all the time,” Hildreth says. “If you want to be wild or crazy, a dining room or powder room is a good place to do it.”

Break up your dining room set. Many dining rooms have too much furniture. Why not put your buffet or server in a different room? Hildreth moved his sideboard to his living room to use when entertaining. He arranges appetizers on it before dinner, then serves dessert and coffee on it afterward. “It’s nice not to be tethered to your dining room table and to move into another room after dinner to talk with other guests,” Hildreth says. “And now my sideboard has found a new life.”

Soften it up. New York designer Katie Ridder says window treatments and carpets are important in a dining room. “There are usually brown tables, chairs and sideboards. That’s a lot of hardwood surfaces, so it’s nice to soften it with carpeting, curtains and maybe a wallpaper.”


A McLean dining room designed by Thomas Pheasant has classical details. The walls are upholstered in velvet damask. (Durston Saylor)

Pay attention to light fixture height. Many dining rooms have chandeliers hung too high. Washington designer Thomas Pheasant says he likes to keep lighting about 30 to 36 inches above the table. “You want to sit across the table and not have the fixture in the way, but you want to bring the light and attention down to everyone’s faces.”

Install sturdy seat covers. On traditional dining chairs, it pays to use indoor/outdoor fabrics. Burns says she often uses Sunbrella or Perennials for young families. “There are so many great options now that are soft and don’t feel like the slippery outdoor fabric of days past,” she says. Additionally, you can take any fabric and get stain treatment applied before upholstering chairs.


A Potomac, Md., dining room designed by Erica Burns shows how she added interest to the Restoration Hardware side chairs by using brown velvet on the seats and front and a linen print on the back. (Anna Routh Photography)

Up your chair count. If your dining room is small but you want to have additional matching chairs available, you can display the chairs in other rooms. Ridder says: “Buy extra chairs and if you want, do different seat covers for them so you can use them for the living room, family room or bedroom yet still bring them in for a large dinner around your table.”

Liven up brown furniture. Hildreth updated the traditional mahogany china cabinet at his mom’s house by lining the back with a neutral grass cloth that has a bit of coral in it. “It lightened the whole look up,” he says. Because china cabinets are going for very affordable prices in auctions and vintage markets, he suggests buying one and lacquering it with a bold paint color.

Supplement lighting. Ridder says she advises clients who are renovating a dining room to add down-lights around the chandelier. “It’s nice to have light pointing down on the table as well as chandelier light and candlelight,” she says. Her favorite source for dining room table candles: Creative Candle, where she stocks up on 24-inch tapers in Paris Gray and Chocolate.

Mix it up. Don’t be so matchy-matchy. Burns suggests going for a different look for the host chairs at either end of the table to make a statement. Also, instead of the usual chandelier hanging over the center of the table, try two pendants.


A Bethesda dining room designed by Erica Burns uses contrasting host chairs at the ends of the table to avoid a matchy-matchy look. (Marigold Photography)

Make it pull double duty. Urban clients like having separate dining rooms but are sometimes short on space, Pheasant says. “What do we do if someone will only use their dining room two or three times a month?” Pheasant says. “We might create a library there using a center table and lining shelves with books and photographs.”

Rethink your china. If you have a glass china cabinet or hutch that’s crammed with porcelain and crystal, separate what you really use from what you might want to de-accession. Display only a few special pieces; it will give the room a cleaner look and will feel more modern. And don’t be afraid to set a nice table with your best china and cloth napkins, even if it’s just for a weeknight family dinner. Says Pheasant: “Use your good stuff and enjoy it.”