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Date Lab: Come on, is this a date or an interview?

Steve Dorsey, 27, journalist, and Amy Allen, administrative assistant, 29. (Photograph courtesy of daters)

We sent Steve and Amy to Casa Luca downtown to find out if they had more than a love for ravioli in common.

Steve: She showed up pretty promptly. I saw her, and she was cute. She was pretty approachable.

Amy: I guess he was pretty much a typical D.C. guy. My first impression was relief, because I was expecting someone who was super geeky, so I saw him, and I was like, Oh, he’s attractive and he seems like a nice guy.

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Steve: I gave her a kiss on the cheek. I asked her if she had ever been on a blind date; she said no. So I said to her, “All right, let’s just have a good time and take The Post to the cleaners tonight.”

Amy: In the beginning of the date, it was pretty good. There was a lot of sort of odd, almost throwback formality with him. He talked about how he wanted to get flowers for me and he couldn’t find any. I thought that was sweet, but it’s very old-school so it was surprising.

Steve: I actually walked around for, like, three hours trying to find a place in D.C. that would sell flowers. I felt like I deserved at least the A for effort.

Amy: Then he asked what I was going to do for him. I said I’d already done it by hiding my tail and cutting off my long, crazy nails — which is not true.

Steve: I saw that they had beef tartare, raw beef, so I was interested in testing her out and seeing how adventurous she would be. She told me that she was vegetarian — no big deal, but that certainly wasn’t something we had in common.

Amy: He didn’t want to say what he did; he wanted me to guess. And he did the same thing with me.

Steve: She works in administrative services. Right now, I work for CBS News. I was a freelance journalist. I was over in Istanbul and in Russia.

Amy: He had to give me a bunch of hints before I even got close to media. I think he wanted to keep the conversation going. I’m more of a banter person so interview questions are a little off-putting, but I figured it’s just his job.

Steve: It was hard for us throughout the night to find commonalities. We obviously had a good time, but she doesn’t even really have a TV, for example, so talking about anything that’s not on Netflix was a challenge.

Amy: I made a “Star Wars” reference, and we somehow got off on a topic about how he hates sci-fi and he doesn’t like fiction and he pegged me as a fiction reader. He shook his fist in the air and said, “Give me reality!”

Steve: We both had the ravioli. Maybe that’s why we got matched up. We both love ravioli.

Amy: He had been talking about how he wanted to go salsa dancing for the date itself, but, one, it was a Monday and it was late, and, two, he seemed to have a train to catch and I also kind of just wanted to get home.

Steve: We quickly swapped phone numbers before I got in the cab. We had a kiss on the cheek, and that was it.


Steve: Solid 3. I definitely wouldn’t mind seeing her again, but we’ll see how things work out. She was respectful. I’m attracted to a woman who is more outgoing than I think she was.

Amy: 3. Because he was a super great person, he was nice, he was funny, he was much cuter than I expected, but I just don’t feel that interested in him.


The two exchanged numbers but haven’t used them. “She was a sweetheart,
but I don’t think we clicked enough to spark a mutual interest,” Steve said. “Overall,” said Amy, “I’m glad I went.” Steve was nice “but just totally wrong for me.”

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