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Ask Amy: Sleep aid sends wife on eating binges

DEAR AMY: My wife usually takes Ambien to help her fall asleep.

The problem is that she frequently takes the drug before she goes up to bed, either in the family room while watching TV or in the kitchen. The Ambien kicks in then, of course, and she falls asleep on the couch and stumbles up to bed several hours later.

I’ve asked her to keep the medicine by the bed, but to no avail. The other night after she took it, she ended up in the kitchen eating ice cream out of the carton. She frequently goes on these eating binges after taking Ambien. Is this a normal side effect?

I’m sorry to say, I lost my temper, took the ice cream away and put it back in the freezer. I said she was acting irresponsibly. Needless to say, she was not happy. What do you think?

I really am worried for her safety (going up the stairs), but she doesn’t want to hear it. -- Worried Husband

DEAR WORRIED: Ambien has potential side effects that have been fairly well publicized. Even a layperson like me (or you or your wife) can do some research to see that this drug, which is in a class of drugs called “sedative-hypnotics,” can cause people to get up in the middle of the night and eat, cook, talk on the phone and even -- in rare and extreme cases -- get in the car and drive while impaired.

One of the less-serious but still significant side effects is the weight gain that people report because of “sleep-eating.” This drug can also make people feel depressed, anxious, hung over, drowsy or dizzy during the day.

From what you report, your wife is not taking this powerful drug according to the directions. Because it causes drowsiness so rapidly, it should be taken right before she goes to sleep. It is also intended for short-term use. Your wife should recognize the potentially serious side effects of Ambien and speak to the prescribing physician.

According to the Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration Web site (, “Although short-term sleeping medications can help patients, it is exceedingly important that they be carefully used and monitored.” SAMHSA’s administrator, Pamela S. Hyde adds, “Physicians and patients need to be aware of the potential adverse reactions associated with any medication, and work closely together to prevent or quickly address any problems that may arise.”

DEAR AMY: Two years ago my husband died in a car accident. His best friend and I recently developed feelings for each other. After quietly dating for a couple of months (without any of our friends knowing), we have decided it is time to let others know that we are dating. We are aware that not everyone will be comfortable with our decision.

What is the best way to tell our friends and family that we are dating? A grand announcement at a dinner party is over the top, yet I hesitate to let the word get out on its own because I want people to hear the news from us, not from a third party. -- In a Match

DEAR MATCH: My sympathies for your loss -- and congratulations that you are now in a happy relationship. You and your guy should notify people personally, starting with your closest kin (if you have children, tell them first) and moving out in concentric circles to tell friends, associates, etc.

You should each tell your contacts individually (not as a couple), understanding that your news may not be met with universal delight. Please be patient and understanding regarding possible negative reactions; some people may need time to adjust, but they will.

DEAR AMY: Your advice to “Acting Foolish” about a stepfather’s role at the daughter’s wedding was spot-on. When this situation occurred with our daughter, my dear husband quietly paid for part of the wedding (my ex paid for nothing) and supported my daughter’s choices. He was definitely my hero.

The bright side? When the bride was told to dance with her dad, she danced half the dance with her biological dad and then brought my husband out on the dance floor. He cried and everyone applauded! -- Gracie

DEAR GRACIE: Beautiful. Thank you.

Amy’s column appears seven days a week at Write to Amy Dickinson at or Ask Amy, Chicago Tribune, TT500, 435 N. Michigan Ave., Chicago, Ill. 60611.

by the Chicago Tribune



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