Have you labeled a food as appealing — or unappealing — because of your true food preferences or because you’ve labeled that food as “good” or “bad” for years?
Here’s how to navigate the gray areas and stumbling blocks, and make intuitive eating work.
Don't try to follow a 'hunger-fullness' diet
Intuitive eating’s growing popularity can be seen in the recent explosion of information about it — in books and on blogs, podcasts and social media — but not all of that information is accurate.
New York dietitian and certified intuitive eating counselor Alissa Rumsey said it’s not surprising that the idea of the hunger-fullness diet — eating when you’re hungry, stopping when you’re full — has taken hold. “Most people are so used to looking at things in a black-and-white sense that it becomes, ‘I should only eat when I’m hungry.’ With intuitive eating, you need to learn to embrace the gray area. Only eating when you’re hungry is not feasible.” For example, having cake at a birthday party usually isn’t about hunger, and sometimes we need to eat before we’re hungry because we won’t have an opportunity to do so later.
Furthermore, as Tribole points out, “honor your hunger” and “feel your fullness” are only two of the 10 intuitive-eating principles she and Resch created for their 1995 book, “Intuitive Eating: A Revolutionary Program That Works.” “You can’t cherry-pick the principles,” she says.
The other principles are “make peace with food,” “challenge the food police,” “discover the satisfaction factor,” “cope with emotions without using food,” “respect your body,” “exercise — feel the difference,” “honor your health with gentle nutrition,” and notably the first principle is “reject the diet mentality.”
New York dietitian Christy Harrison, host of the Food Psych Podcast and author of the forthcoming book “Anti-Diet,” said rejecting the diet mentality is more significant than simply ceasing to diet. “It’s about changing your mind-set and recognizing, then stepping away from, the internalized beliefs that come from diet culture,” she said. For example, she said, many people are still “dieting” without realizing it, restricting their food choices in the pursuit of health instead of weight loss.
Be open to feeling a little chaotic at first
One common fear people have when they start to explore intuitive eating is that if they allow themselves to eat formerly off-limits foods, they’ll never be able to stop. Tribole said this is understandable. “When someone fears that they’re never going to stop eating their favorite food, it’s probably because they’ve been deprived of it for so long,” she said. “If you come to intuitive eating really hungry, it’s easy to be afraid that you’re never going to stop eating.”
Harrison said the radical desire to eat, say, cookies, will eventually lessen, even though the pendulum swing from restriction to freedom is going to feel wild and chaotic at first. “It’s worth a few months, or however long it takes, of feeling a little chaotic if you want to have a balanced relationship with food that’s going to last decades,” she said.
Rumsey said another common misperception is that intuitive eating means eat whatever you want, anytime you want. “With intuitive eating, you have permission to eat what you want, anytime you want, but that doesn’t mean you always do that. Hunger, fullness, satisfaction, how food makes us feel — those are all important, but intuitive eating also means using your brain and life experience.”
Rather than being “one big cheat day,” intuitive eating is about developing — and using — interoceptive awareness, the awareness of internal body sensations, Tribole said. “Interoceptive awareness is your superpower,” she said. “When you know what your needs are physically, you have a treasure trove of information to help guide you.”
After years of dieting, it can be hard to tune back into the body’s signals, Harrison said. Intuitive eating’s “unconditional permission to eat is a gentle way back into that,” she said.
She suggested thinking about “what sounds good, what tastes good, what brings me pleasure and joy. Then, come back to how foods are sitting with you. It’s important to let yourself get enough food, and enough varieties of food, first.”
Untangle nutrition from dieting
One of the intuitive-eating principles is “honor your health with gentle nutrition,” but once people start practicing intuitive eating, they often worry that they’re doing it wrong, or that “diet mind” is creeping back in when they want broccoli, salmon and quinoa instead of a cheeseburger and fries.
“Intuitive eaters don’t apologize for eating a doughnut or a salad,” Tribole said. “But the confusion is understandable.” People should ask themselves, “What’s the intention behind the desire to eat a healthy food? If the intention is to shrink your body, then that’s a clue that diet mind is at play,” she said.
Other clues are the presence of guilt or fear. “If there’s any of that feeling of, ‘If I don’t eat that broccoli, I’m going to ruin my health, or I’m going to gain weight,’ those are clues that diet mentality is creeping in,” Harrison said. She points out that choosing the broccoli can be an act of self-care. “Maybe you’ve noticed that when you include a few servings of vegetables, you feel more energetic and your digestion works better. A truly peaceful relationship with food is about self-care, not self-control.”
Give intuitive eating time to feel intuitive
Tribole said that although there are 10 intuitive-eating principles, they are not absolute rules. “There’s no such thing as pass or fail; there’s learning and discovering,” she said. “So, you overate at lunch. Let’s see what happens. Maybe you don’t feel hungry for an afternoon snack; maybe you aren’t as hungry at dinner. Ultimately, it’s not satisfying to undereat, and it’s usually not satisfying to overeat, but you get to decide.”
Rumsey said dieting is usually easy at first because there’s a plan to follow and clear rules. But it gets harder over time because the rules aren’t sustainable in real life, and our bodies often push back against the ongoing restriction. “Intuitive eating is the opposite: It’s really hard at first because for most people, it’s totally different than what they’ve been doing,” she said. “But over time, intuitive eating gets easier and easier.”
Ultimately, said Tribole, “it’s about putting the pleasure back in food and about healing your relationship with food, mind and body so you can live your best life.”
Registered dietitian Carrie Dennett is author of “Healthy for Your Life: A Holistic Approach to Optimal Wellness” and owner of Nutrition by Carrie.
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