Lt. Gen. John F. Kelly, nominated to the powerful position of Defense Secretary Robert M. Gates's senior military assistant, knows firsthand the pain and loss of many military families caused by war. On Nov. 9, 2010, his son 2nd Lt. Robert Kelly stepped on a land mine in Afghanistan and was killed.
Feb. 14, 2011 Lt. Gen. John F. Kelly, second from left, looks on as Lance Cpl. Sebastian Gallegos and his wife, Tracie, chat with the Marine Corps commandant, Gen. James F. Amos, at Brooke Army Medical Center in San Antonio. Kelly regularly visits wounded troops. Nikki Kahn/The Washington Post