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The science of love: One look is all it took

One look is all it took

Regarding “Love at first sight? It’s complicated.” [June 25]:

It was October 1985, and a friend invited me to go to a singles party on the Hill sponsored by Sen. Rudy Boschwitz. (Apparently he wanted his sons to find a girl.) I had no intention of meeting anyone, but then across the room I saw him! He was on crutches, so he stood out. (He had broken his ankle playing volleyball.) I immediately worked my way over to him — ignoring several guys who said hello to me while crossing through the crowd. He was gorgeous, and before I even introduced myself to him, Cupid’s arrow struck. Yes, there was physical attraction, but I felt something more.

We talked and exchanged numbers, and he called when he said he would. This was amazing to me. By doing this he had already proved he was not your typical guy. I knew I wanted to marry him. I just had to convince him he wanted to marry me.

I had been in and out of relationships throughout college and had never felt this way before. Something inside me felt different. People at work knew I was in love.

I couldn’t yet let him know I wanted to marry him, as that could maybe make him turn the other way. So, after many dates and patience on my part, my dream came true. We’ve been married since 1987.

So, yes, I do believe in love at first sight.

Tracy Threefoot, Rockville

Want to keep the mind sharp? Learn Esperanto.

Regarding “Forgetting names, losing keys: Flukes, or signs of imminent dementia?” [July 2]:

Experts on aging often suggest learning a new language as a good memory exercise. I am a retired psychiatrist, 78 years old, moderately skilled in German and fluent in Esperanto. I suggest the latter as the ideal language project for seniors. Its rules are few and regular; its word-building and sentence structure are governed by logic. The literature, original and translated, is rich, and the Internet provides excellent tutorials, with global interchange from home.

E. James Lieberman, Potomac

A positive practice

I enjoyed the Aging Well articles [June 25]. At 77, I’ll take all the help I can get. One thing that I try to practice is to try to stay positive and be around people who are positive. I don’t mean in a Pollyanna way, but be content and share that contentment. A smile is a wonderful thing.

Jean Busby, Manassas

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