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Opinion Here’s how it works when a couple adopts through our Christian embryo bank

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Some of you who read Aaron Halbert’s essay in this newspaper today about his decision with his wife to give birth to triplets through embryo adoption might have found yourselves wondering: How, exactly, does that work?

If so, here’s a quick explainer on the subject and on the National Embryo Donation Center, the Christian group for which I work, which facilitated the Halberts’ embryo transfer.

In-vitro fertilization (IVF), the process of conceiving a child by combining egg and sperm in a lab, has been in existence for several decades now and is an increasingly common method to which couples turn when they encounter fertility struggles. Often couples undergo a successful cycle or two of IVF, give birth to their desired number of children and finish building their families. Many of these couples end up creating more embryos than are needed or able to be used to build their families and at that point are faced with a dilemma: What do we do with our embryos that remain?

[My wife and I are white evangelicals. Here’s why we chose to give birth to black triplets]

We at the NEDC exist to facilitate and advocate for the formation of families with these “unused” embryos. Life begins at conception, which means we see embryos as the tiniest of human lives, not just tissue. That is why we accept embryos remaining from IVF from all over the country free of charge to those who donate them. We then adopt the embryos out to couples who –in most cases- are experiencing the trial of fertility challenges.

We and many others call this process embryo donation and embryo adoption (ED/EA), though some in the fertility industry take issue with the term “adoption.” That’s because, legally, transferring custody of embryos is treated as a property transfer rather than an adoption. Under the law, adoptions technically involve human beings who have been born.

Regardless, we and many other clinics believe the term “embryo adoption” is not a misnomer, and that it describes the process rather well. Couples are taking children who are not biologically theirs and welcoming them into their lives, hoping for the opportunity to raise them to adulthood. Many organizations, like ours, even include elements of the traditional adoption process, such as requiring home studies and offering the option to have an open or closed relationship with the genetic donor families.

When the NEDC began operating in 2003, there were only a handful of organizations facilitating embryo donation and embryo adoption. Now there are at least several dozen clinics in the country performing the procedures, though the 564 births as a result of our program constitute the largest total of any organization in the world.

We believe there are compelling reasons for couples encountering fertility challenges to consider this option. For one, the cost –generally in the $6000 to $10,000 range for a first FET with our organization- is more affordable than international or most forms of domestic adoption. Of course, there is also the unique opportunity for the adoptive mother to carry and bond with her child.

Finally, with 625,000 to 1,000,000 embryos estimated to be in frozen storage in this country, our medical director believes it should be a priority for couples to create fewer embryos. Technology has evolved to the point where egg-freezing, a process that creates no ethical dilemma yet leaves fertility options open for the future, is a very compelling choice to consider.

You may find out more about embryo donation and adoption by visiting our Web site[]

Mark Mellinger is development director at the National Embryo Donation Center, a Christian embryo bank in Knoxville, TN

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