One year ago today, on Feb. 2, 2017, our son Tim was excited and anxious to begin his initiation into the Beta Theta Pi Fraternity at Pennsylvania State University. Of the three fraternity bids he received, he accepted Beta Theta Pi.
It was self-described as an alcohol-free, hazing-free fraternity and allegedly placed a high emphasis on academics. He felt like Beta Theta Pi shared his values.
Two days later, we watched as our son was taken off life support at Hershey Medical Center as a result of the injuries he sustained in connection with the egregious hazing he experienced on that night of initiation.
The cause of death was multiple traumatic injuries, including a fractured skull, lacerated spleen and a severe brain bleed.
He just wanted to join an organization. How could this happen?
The nation, and much of the world, one year later knows that Timothy J. Piazza, our amazing, caring, goodhearted 19-year-old son — the strapping redhead from western New Jersey known for his love of life and desire to help those in need — was the victim of violent, organized fraternity hazing and brutal neglect.
That’s not on his death certificate, but that’s what we get to live with every day.
Tim’s death was a slow, painful passing that was graphically captured on videotape by the fraternity’s unmonitored security system.
To this day, we have not watched the videotapes when they have been played in the preliminary court proceedings, but we have urged Penn State officials, including the president and his board of trustees, to do so. That has yet to happen.
Eventually, it is our hope that a jury will have the opportunity to watch the videos (including the recovered basement video) and hear all of the evidence in the criminal case brought by prosecutors after an extensive Centre County grand jury investigation.
Despite our never-ending sorrow and pain, we have faith in the justice system and hope for the day when all those responsible for Tim’s death will be held accountable.
We also continue to hope and pray that once and for all — working with other advocate-parents — we can help bring an end to senseless, preventable hazing deaths in America.
Tim’s death was the first hazing fatality in 2017, but by no means was it the last. We now belong to a national club no parent should ever aspire to join.
On Feb. 23 and 24 we, along with other parents who have lost children to hazing, will come together for our inaugural conference in Greenville, S.C.
The media and other parents repeatedly ask us what to tell their children who are thinking of joining a fraternity or a sorority.
First, we urge them to have the conversation. We discussed pledging with Tim and he assured us that if he joined a fraternity, he would pick the right one.
Tim and the other pledges were deceived and a darker side of that fraternity was revealed, as forced alcohol-fueled hazing intensified in the “dry” house run by “Men of Principle.”
Never would Tim think his soon-to-be “brothers” would abuse him and then leave him to die.
It is important to talk openly about what has transpired this past year, and over many years, and to remind your children that they are important to you. Tell them to take nothing at face value, be cautious, guard against peer pressure.
And should they decide to pledge, pledge as a group. Make sure somebody your son or daughter trusts always has their back. If at any time they are concerned for their safety or the safety of others, they need to follow their instincts, leave before it’s too late and call for help.
It is too late for Tim, but it is not too late for your son or daughter.