A grieving widower sent a defiant message to the terrorists who murdered his young wife and the mother of his toddler son last week: “You will not have my hatred.”

Antoine Leiris, in a note he shared publicly on Facebook, but directed at the Islamic State, said he would not give the militant group the satisfaction of seeing him afraid, or changing how he’ll raise his 17-month-old son.

His wife, Helene Muyal-Leiris, 35, whom he described as “the love of my life,” was among the concert-goers killed at the Bataclan venue Friday night in Paris.

“I don’t know who you are and I don’t want to know, you’re dead souls,” he wrote in French. “If this God for which you kill indiscriminately made us in his own image, every bullet in the body of my wife will have been a wound in his heart.”

Leiris conceded that the terrorists briefly succeeded because he is “devastated with grief,” but he added that they would not achieve their ultimate mission to make him live a life of fear and hate. Giving in to that, he wrote, “would be giving in to the same ignorance that made you what you are.”

Since he posted the note Monday, it has been shared more than 100,000 times. His poignant, tragic, yet resolute tone captured exactly what people strive for when faced with unconscionable pain — especially when he wrote, in closing, that the terrorists also would not steal his son’s joy.

He and his son, “are stronger than all the armies of the world,” he wrote. Then, he said, he was done giving the terrorists any more of his time. His son was waking from his nap and they were going to have a normal day together.

“He will eat his snack like he does every day, then we will play like we do every day and every day of his life this little boy will affront you by being happy and free,” he wrote. “Because you will not have his hatred either.”

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