Author Anne Lamott says, stop. Not this year.
In a lengthy Facebook post ahead of the new year, Lamott lays out why people should forgo the disappointing annual weight-loss pledge.
“The world is too hard as it is,” she wrote, “without letting your pants have an opinion on how you are doing.”
Losing weight is the number one New Year’s resolution. But the annual cycle often amounts to little more than self loathing. It also creates an unhealthy relationship with food. A slice of pizza is no longer just that. It’s a symbol of self-control, deprivation or reward.
“The interesting thing is that intuitive eaters are less likely to be overweight, and they spend less time thinking about food,” she said. “Controlled eaters are more vulnerable to overeating in response to advertising, super-sizing, and the all-you-can-eat buffet. And a small indulgence, like eating one scoop of ice cream, is more likely to lead to a food binge in controlled eaters.”
That internal dialogue is a form of self-abuse. And losing weight won’t erase those insecurities.
Those themes were echoed by Lamott, who in a separate tweet credited the 20-year-old book with radically changing her views on food and weight, calling it “scary and life-giving.”
“If you are not okay with yourself at 185, you will not be okay at 150, or even 135,” Lamott wrote on Facebook. “The self-respect and peace of mind you long for is not out there. It’s within. I hate that. I resent that more than I can say. But it’s true.”