The discovery was almost eerie for Boos, who had never been too curious about the lives of his biological parents, he told The Washington Post. He stopped wanting to know about them by the time he was in junior high, when the feeling that he didn’t fit into his own family subsided. He was content not even knowing their names. And the night he found out that he and his biological father shared a career in common, that didn’t change.
“I said, ‘I probably met my father when I was trucking on the road,’ ” said Boos, now 27. “I probably met him at a truck stop and didn’t know it. It wasn’t something I was hellbent on figuring out.”
But a few years later, he would figure it out anyway — by accident.
In July 2016, he started working at Rock Solid Transport in Chippewa Falls, Wis., where he met Robert Degaro. Degaro, who started at the company in November 2015, was a tattooed, mustachioed 55-year-old with a pierced ear and, like Boos, an affinity for cracking jokes at their co-workers’ expense. That was how the two became friends. Their jokes spilled over onto Facebook — where soon enough Boos’s mother started to notice.
The name Robert Degaro was familiar to her. She hesitated to believe that the man who kept popping up on her son’s Facebook page was the same man who was his biological father. But in January, she called her son over to sit down next to her, Boos said, and she pulled up Degaro’s picture on Facebook.
“ ‘I just want you to know,’ ” Boos recalled her saying, “ ‘that you’re friends with your birth father on Facebook.’ ”
Boos almost fell off the couch.
“I was like, ‘Oh my God, I work with this guy,’ ” Boos said. His mom didn’t make the connection right away. “She’s like, ‘Yeah, have you seen him out on the road?’ ”
“I said, ‘Yeah, I just talked to him — two hours ago!’ ” Boos responded. “Mom, he’s not just another truck driver. He works at Rock Solid.”
His mom almost fell off the couch, too.
Boos let it sink in for a day before searching Facebook the next evening for the least jarring words to reveal to his pal Bob that he might be his biological father.
“Hey, Bob,” he started, according to the original Facebook messages, which were provided to The Washington Post. Boos threw out Degaro’s ex-wife’s name, asking if Degaro knew her.
“Yes,” Degaro responded. “She is my ex-wife.”
“Really…” Boos said. “I just found out that she’s my biological mother . . . my mom told me last night.”
The two friends got off Facebook and got on the phone, exchanging awkward laughs and occasional moments of silence.
“I couldn’t stop laughing, because we had been working with each other for almost two years at this point and hadn’t figured this out,” Boos said. “To him, it was a shock and to me it was a shock, and we didn’t know what to say to each other. It was so unbelievable. Who in their right mind would think that after 20-some years, you’d actually find out where you come from or find your kid and you had no idea where he went?”
For the first time, Boos learned the full story of his adoption. Degaro’s life in nearby Eau Claire, Wis., was rocky back then, he told The Post. Money was tight and his marriage was crumbling. The doctors told the couple that their baby would be premature and would require an emergency C-section, Degaro recalled. And it all just seemed overwhelming. Degaro wasn’t ready to be a father, he said, let alone to a baby who may need special medical attention. His then-wife suggested adoption, and he agreed. He signed his rights away, his wife made the adoption arrangements and — at least for 27 years — he never saw the child.
“In the back of your mind, you always kind of wonder where he was at and how he turned out,” Degaro said. “Now it’s just nice to be able to know he turned out to be successful and such a good person.”
Little has changed at work for the truckers, they said, even as their story began unfolding on the local news last week. Boos has avoided saying that he has been “reunited” with his birth father, knowing they were never really lost. Degaro has avoided pushing a father-son relationship too hard, knowing they were never supposed to have one in the first place. “Obviously, I can’t just step in and say ‘I’m your dad’ when he was raised by somebody else,” Degaro said. “We’re still more just friends.”
But who knows, he said, “maybe things will change.”
Boos is getting married in May. Degaro, who is also engaged, already had been invited to the wedding, as were all their co-workers at Rock Solid Transport.
But now Degaro, Boos said, will find a seat at the table reserved for family.
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