My parents have been happily married for 36 years. So sometimes when we talk about my dating life — and I don’t tell them much! — it’s hard for them to understand what it’s like to be single today. The uncertainty seems to boggle them: They’re surprised to hear that a good first date might not lead to a second, or that singles routinely talk to people on dating apps but never meet up in person.
So when Post TV’s Pamela Kirkland suggested that I let my parents take my Tinder account for a whirl, I had to say yes. What better way for them to get a glimpse of the excitement and disappointment of looking for dates — and, um, all the characters out there in the singles scene.
When I ask my parents what it takes to find lasting love, they talk about the importance of getting to know the whole person and giving people a second, third or fourth chance. But give them a Tinder profile to play with, and they’re just as judgmental as any 30-something. Their quick decision-making went something like this: Too old, too young, and hey, can’t anyone smile for the camera?
When asked whether Tinder was a good place to find a soulmate, my mom called the app “soul-less.” It’s just pictures — you have no sense of the person, she said. You’re better off talking to someone you meet on the street.
I have to admit: She has a point.