“You don’t want to choose anything that’s too expensive or too far in the future,” says Laurie Davis, chief executive of eFlirt, an online dating consultancy. Concert tickets are great, she says, but aim for a smaller show over a huge one. And pick something that’s a week or two out, Davis advises, not months into the new year. (Each of you could be on to someone else by then!)
“The great thing about experiences,” Davis says, “is that they create memories.” And you should start creating memories if you do see yourself together over the long term. “While going to dinner and drinks together is great,” she adds, “it doesn’t give a snapshot of your life in the way an experience might.”
Davis remembers that first Christmas she and her now-husband celebrated — they’d been together about two months and were exclusive at that point. She gave him tickets to see Owl City. “Every time we were in the car, we used to listen to their CD,” she said. He made her a jewelry box and inside he filled it with candy and words cut out of paper that described their relationship. “It was a really sweet gift,” she recalls.
Another option, recommended by Express dining editor Holley Simmons, is the pop-up dinner or restaurant — an experience as ephemeral as your connection might prove to be. Pop Up Republic tracks pop-up dinners happening around the United States. Try Dinner Lab, a traveling supper club in the United States, or Eat With, which hosts supper clubs around the world. That way, Simmons says, if you two don’t last, you won’t get that sinking feeling in your stomach every time you pass that restaurant where you shared a romantic meal — because it no longer exists.
Looking for something a little more adventurous? Try indoor skydiving; iFly has locations around the United States and is opening in Ashburn, Va., in early 2016. Actual skydiving has a till-death-do-we-part connotation you might not be ready for. But an indoor version seems like it could spur the kinds of memories Davis is talking about.