When you get invited to a wedding and a bachelorette party, do you say yes to both or just one? And once you’re at a bachelorette party, how do you keep the costs and drama to a minimum?

Earlier in her 20s, Jen Glantz, who works as a “professional bridesmaid” in New York, found herself hoping she doesn’t get invited to both events — mainly because she was spending hundreds of dollars she didn’t have. “Whereas at a wedding,” she says, “I know what I’m getting into.”

To keep costs under control at a bachelorette party, Glantz recommends that the women who will be attending help the maid of honor and the bridesmaids set a budget for the weekend. Just as couples do when planning a wedding. What a concept! Among her other tips: Build in plenty of down time. And listen to the bride: If she says no strippers, that means no strippers!

Glantz and Solo-ish editor Veronica Toney joined me on the latest episode of the Solo-ish podcast to discuss how to plan a bachelorette party without losing friends and alienating people. You can listen here — or subscribe to the podcast on iTunes.