The show is billed as the woman directing the courtship — deciding who stays, who goes, who gets the final rose — and yet the men are still expecting to be the ones proposing. The next question often becomes: Where do we start our life together?
It’s a question that often pops up in real life, too. A 2014 study, for example, found that couples are more likely to move for a man’s job than a woman’s — largely because men tend to work in industries that are geographically constrained, while women cluster in jobs where they can work anywhere. But another 2014 survey of 1,000 people found that 72 percent of millennials — a generation that encompasses both Fletcher and Rodgers, who are in their late 20s — said they would move for a female spouse’s career. In contrast, 59 percent of baby boomers said they would make such a move.
Fletcher and Rodgers didn’t say why they chose Dallas. (“Bachelorette” couples often don’t make it to the move-in or much beyond that.) But the decision does stand out in “Bachelorette” history. Let’s take a quick look at where the show’s other couples have ended up.
Season 11: Kaitlyn Bristowe
A few months after her season ended, Kaitlyn Bristowe moved in with Shawn Booth in Nashville, where Booth was living before the show. They’re still engaged.
Season 10: Andi Dorfman
After Andi Dorfman and Josh Murray got engaged in 2014, they planned to move in together later that year. They were both already living in Atlanta, where Dorfman was an assistant district attorney before quitting that year. It’s unclear whether the move-in ever happened. By February 2015 they were officially broken up, and Dorfman moved to New York City, which she calls one of the best places to get over a breakup.
Season 9: Desiree Hartsock
After Desiree Hartsock’s season wrapped in 2013, she left Los Angeles to join Chris Siegfried in Seattle. They are still together and are expecting a child this fall.
Season 8: Emily Maynard
Emily Maynard and her final pick, Jef Holm, broke up six months after the show wrapped. Holm did move to Charlotte, where Maynard and her daughter, Ricki, were based. He got his own place there with the intention that they would move in together. One month after he relocated, though, they split. In 2014, she married a man she met at church, and they had a baby boy in 2015.
Season 7: Ashley Hebert
After the season wrapped, Ashley Hebert and J.P. Rosenbaum were long-distance while Hebert finished dental school at the University of Pennsylvania. Then, according to Us Weekly, Hebert joined Rosenbaum in New York. They then picked up to move to New Jersey when she got a pediatric dental residency in Philadelphia. “We decided to move halfway,” Hebert said in 2012, as they were planning the move. “He’ll commute, and I’ll commute. It’s a lesson in relationships.” They got married in a televised wedding ceremony in December 2012, later relocated to Miami (because she needed a change of scenery, according to Hebert). They’re currently expecting their second child.
Season 6: Ali Fedotowsky
Season 5: Jillian Harris
In 2009, Jillian Harris moved to Chicago to join fiance Ed Swiderski and told People about how she revamped his “total bachelor pad.” They broke up before tying the knot; he went on “Bachelor Pad” and later married a television anchor he introduced himself to via Twitter. In March, Harris announced that she and her boyfriend are expecting a baby.
Season 4: DeAnna Pappas
DeAnna Pappas and Jesse Csincsak got engaged in 2008; according to news reports, they moved to her home town of Newnan, Ga. Four months later, they called off their engagement. Pappas ended up marrying Stephen Stagliano, whom she met through his brother, Michael Stagliano, who was a contestant on Season 5 of “The Bachelorette.” They had their second child this year.
Season 3: Jennifer “Jen” Schefft
Season 2: Meredith Phillips
Meredith Phillips and her final pick, Ian McKee, did live together. According to People magazine, he left Manhattan to join her in Los Angeles. They lived together for a year but split in 2005. Phillips has been open about her battle with alcoholism and went on to marry her high school sweetheart in 2013.
Season 1: Trista Rehn
Such a strong start to “The Bachelorette” franchise! The first Bachelorette, Trista Rehn, got engaged to Ryan Sutter and married on television in 2003. It’s unclear where they moved after the finale. (The Internet was less feverishly cataloging Bachelor Nation’s couples in 2003.) But they have been married for over a decade and have two children. According to the couple, the secret to their success has been leaving the cameras behind. Sounds good in theory, but they did renew their vows on an ABC special that aired in 2014.