Each day seems to bring a new online-dating revelation meant to erode our collective faith in courtship/humanity. First there was OkCupid’s disturbing, data-based glimpse into modern attraction. (“Men are sexists, and we’re all racists.”) Then there was a flotilla of blogs devoted to users’ cringe-inducing dating fails.
Today, on Tinder, there are men seeking love with their resumes and bank accounts. Unironically.
James Shamsi, a 21-year-old graduate of King’s College London (and, perhaps predictably, a “social media consultant”), received lots of attention — little of it romantic — after posting his abbreviated resume to Tinder. He was genuinely trying to get a job, Shamsi assured the Daily Dot, after recently moving to Los Angeles. But his CV did score him a coffee date, too, which is a lesson either in unintended consequences or the dating values of ladies in L.A.
Meanwhile, in an (admittedly unverified!) image surfaced by the Boston branch of Barstool Sports, a 29-year-old named Brandon forwent his actual photo … and posted a screenshot of a business checking account balance.
Tinder’s all about looks… But this guy has taken things to the next level by using a photo of his bank account! pic.twitter.com/BBryKwDJya— 101.5 KooL FM (@1015KooLFM) September 15, 2014
“We actually do this kind of thing often for our clients, and it is something we have seen become increasingly popular among Tinder users,” said Scott Valdez, the founder of the online-dating consultancies Virtual Dating Assistants and Tinder Done For You. Some types of offbeat images, Valdez says, “can add some personality to one’s Tinder persona.”
But maybe personality isn’t the name of the game, here — after all, research on online dating habits has consistently revealed users’ motives are less honorable than we might hope. Men consistently look for 20-year-old women, regardless of their own ages; racial bias is prevalent and intense; people tend to have better, deeper conversations when they don’t know what their partner looks like; married people tend to seek flings online right when they have their first kid. “I wish people exercised more humanity,” summed up OkCupid’s Christian Rudder as part of his recent media tour. Indeed.
you posted your bank account balance as your tinder photo?! you must have THE BEST personality #ermahgerd— Leticia Monroe (@RaquelBateman) September 16, 2014
But some people see things a little less darkly. Max Schwartz — proprietor of dating-photography service Tinder Headshots, a real thing that exists (!) — sees the whole continuum of Tinder weirdness as a kind of experimentation, a way for people to figure the platform, and maybe themselves, out.
“I think it’s becoming a way for people to learn how to re-market themselves,” he said. “Kinda like what happened when everyone started using Myspace.”
Needless to say, Schwartz doesn’t recommend the resume or bank account approach. And truth be told, science doesn’t either: According to Rudder’s research, the best online-dating photos are pictures of the dater with no flash and a shallow depth of field. Tinder Headshots can supply those, FYI — for $75 apiece.