Carolyn Hax

Washington, D.C.

Carolyn Hax started her advice column in 1997, after five years as a copy editor and news editor in Style and none as a therapist. The column includes cartoons by “relationship cartoonist” Nick Galifianakis — Carolyn's ex-husband — and appears in over 200 newspapers. Besides the daily column, Carolyn has a weekly live online discussion (noon Fridays), the Hax Philes forum and a Facebook page. She also has a policy of saying yes when NPR calls but avoids TV like something forgotten in the back of the fridge; the feeling appears to be mutual.

Carolyn lives in Massachusetts with her husband, three boys and medium brown dog, Billy, but sees D.C. as “home.”

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Hax Philes

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Carolyn Hax Live (January 25)

Advice Columnist Carolyn Hax takes your questions and tackles your problems.

Jan 25, 2019

Carolyn Hax: Sorry, Mom, but you can’t tackle your adult son with an ultimatum

He joined a full-contact football program in college, so she’s considering pulling money.

Jan 20, 2019

Carolyn Hax: What we’ve got here is a failure to stop communicating

A 30-year marriage is in a Grand Canyon-size rut. Stop talking and start climbing.

Jan 19, 2019

Carolyn Hax: And on Father’s Day, you can give him a World’s Best Cad mug

Don’t ask what to tell the children. Ask why would you still want to be married to him.

Jan 18, 2019

Carolyn Hax Live: 'You're-lucky-I-put-up-with-you'

Advice Columnist Carolyn Hax takes your questions and tackles your problems.

Jan 18, 2019

Carolyn Hax: Sorry, but you can’t turn a bad match into a good marriage

If you’re not the man she wanted and she’s not the person you thought she was, move on.

Jan 17, 2019

Carolyn Hax: How to get through the grief and get on with your life

It’ll take some time and some work, but you can embrace messy, painful life and love again.

Jan 16, 2019

Carolyn Hax: Searching for the elusive fairy-tale life

There are steps a reader can take to try to get out of an unhappy rut.

Jan 15, 2019

Carolyn Hax: A nurse must accept that there’s no cure for thickheadedness

Her boyfriend’s family can’t/won’t understand why she has to work nights and weekends.

Jan 14, 2019

Carolyn Hax: How do you gracefully accept faint praise? Um, gracefully.

And that simple act is praiseworthy, too.

Jan 13, 2019

Carolyn Hax started her advice column in 1997, after five years as a copy editor and news editor in Style and none as a therapist. The column includes cartoons by “relationship cartoonist” Nick Galifianakis — Carolyn's ex-husband — and appears in over 200 newspapers.

Besides the daily column, Carolyn has a weekly live online discussion (noon Fridays), the Hax Philes forum and a Facebook page. She also has a policy of saying yes when NPR calls but avoids TV like something forgotten in the back of the fridge; the feeling appears to be mutual.

Carolyn lives in Massachusetts with her husband, three boys and medium brown dog, Billy, but sees D.C. as "home."

Sign up for Carolyn Hax’s column, delivered to your inbox early each morning.

Chat with Carolyn

Tackle your problems with Carolyn every Friday from noon until she falls on her keyboard. Plus dip into her deep archives.

Nick Galifianakis

See more of Nick’s artwork