Carolyn Hax

Washington, D.C.

Carolyn Hax started her advice column in 1997, after five years as a copy editor and news editor in Style and none as a therapist. The column includes cartoons by “relationship cartoonist” Nick Galifianakis — Carolyn's ex-husband — and appears in over 200 newspapers. Besides the daily column, Carolyn has a weekly live online discussion (noon Fridays), the Hax Philes forum and a Facebook page. She also has a policy of saying yes when NPR calls but avoids TV like something forgotten in the back of the fridge; the feeling appears to be mutual.

Carolyn lives in Massachusetts with her husband, three boys and medium brown dog, Billy, but sees D.C. as “home.”

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Hax Philes

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Carolyn Hax Live: Carolyn Hax Live: Hootenanny of Holiday Horrors 2018

Advice Columnist Carolyn Hax takes your questions and tackles your problems.

Dec 7, 2018

Carolyn Hax: What part of ‘this isn’t working’ don’t you understand?

As it turns out, neither you nor your former girlfriend knew the answer to that one.

Nov 19, 2018

Carolyn Hax: When ‘forever’ didn’t work out the first time

A woman attending her ex’s wedding wonders how to avoid scoffing on the big day.

Nov 18, 2018

Carolyn Hax: No little bundle of joy, but a big bundle of woes

Feeling guilty because your partner agrees to childlessness isn’t the same as being sensitive.

Nov 17, 2018

Carolyn Hax: He’s flirting with another woman, and his wife is fuming

Radical honesty is the best policy here.

Nov 16, 2018

Carolyn Hax Live: 'The butternut squash cares!'

Advice Columnist Carolyn Hax takes your questions and tackles your problems.

Nov 16, 2018

Carolyn Hax: How do I get my husband to step up and help take care of our toddlers?

He said it would be different after our first two kids. Now I’m back to doing most of the baby-related tasks.

Nov 15, 2018

Carolyn Hax: As holidays approach, mom shares her grief with son

After the death of her dad, she doesn’t want to overwhelm her 4-year-old.

Nov 14, 2018

Carolyn Hax: When your roomie makes your heart go zoomie

Enjoy the moment, the anticipation, the getting to know each other.

Nov 13, 2018

Carolyn Hax: She wants to be an academic angel, but the devil is in the details

With an offer to pay for the tuition of her daughter’s friend rejected, there are other ways to help.

Nov 12, 2018

Carolyn Hax started her advice column in 1997, after five years as a copy editor and news editor in Style and none as a therapist. The column includes cartoons by “relationship cartoonist” Nick Galifianakis — Carolyn's ex-husband — and appears in over 200 newspapers.

Besides the daily column, Carolyn has a weekly live online discussion (noon Fridays), the Hax Philes forum and a Facebook page. She also has a policy of saying yes when NPR calls but avoids TV like something forgotten in the back of the fridge; the feeling appears to be mutual.

Carolyn lives in Massachusetts with her husband, three boys and medium brown dog, Billy, but sees D.C. as "home."

Sign up for Carolyn Hax’s column, delivered to your inbox early each morning.

Chat with Carolyn

Tackle your problems with Carolyn every Friday from noon until she falls on her keyboard. Plus dip into her deep archives.

Nick Galifianakis

See more of Nick’s artwork