Carolyn Hax

Washington, D.C.

Carolyn Hax started her advice column in 1997, after five years as a copy editor and news editor in Style and none as a therapist. The column includes cartoons by “relationship cartoonist” Nick Galifianakis — Carolyn's ex-husband — and appears in over 200 newspapers. Besides the daily column, Carolyn has a weekly live online discussion (noon Fridays), the Hax Philes forum and a Facebook page. She also has a policy of saying yes when NPR calls but avoids TV like something forgotten in the back of the fridge; the feeling appears to be mutual.

Carolyn lives in Massachusetts with her husband, three boys and medium brown dog, Billy, but sees D.C. as “home.”

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Hax Philes

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Carolyn Hax: What can a wife do to keep her husband and his sisters close?

His mom kept lines of communication open. Now she’s gone, and he’s dropping the ball.

Jul 20, 2018

Carolyn Hax Live: 'Regrets are very common...but self-hatred is not'

Advice Columnist Carolyn Hax takes your questions and tackles your problems.

Jul 20, 2018

Carolyn Hax: Her daughter acts differently around boyfriend. Cause for alarm?

Mom should talk to her about what she sees, not what she thinks may be the cause.

Jul 19, 2018

Carolyn Hax: You want a nice wedding, but here’s the hitch: Flak from the family

Take a look at your motivations and doubts, and decide what’s right for you.

Jul 18, 2018

Carolyn Hax: Don’t get tied up in knots over a no-strings gift

For a daughter’s wedding, pay what you see fit and let her spend it as she sees fit.

Jul 17, 2018

Carolyn Hax: After losing both parents at once, grieving takes as long as it takes

Each member of a family experiences the togetherness and the absences differently.

Jul 16, 2018

Carolyn Hax: Sis has Mom’s ashes in a box, and your wife has you in one

Her harangue against your sister makes one wonder what your home life is like.

Jul 15, 2018

Carolyn Hax: Her boyfriend squawks about her ex, who’s also her sister’s in-law

You can’t change the past or choose your family, but you can re-examine your relationship.

Jul 14, 2018

Carolyn Hax: Congratulations, it’s a bouncing blabby mouth

How should a pregnant woman respond to people’s comments about her size?

Jul 13, 2018

Carolyn Hax Live: 'That road you're on? Leads to nowhere.'

Advice Columnist Carolyn Hax takes your questions and tackles your problems.

Jul 13, 2018

Carolyn Hax started her advice column in 1997, after five years as a copy editor and news editor in Style and none as a therapist. The column includes cartoons by “relationship cartoonist” Nick Galifianakis — Carolyn's ex-husband — and appears in over 200 newspapers.

Besides the daily column, Carolyn has a weekly live online discussion (noon Fridays), the Hax Philes forum and a Facebook page. She also has a policy of saying yes when NPR calls but avoids TV like something forgotten in the back of the fridge; the feeling appears to be mutual.

Carolyn lives in Massachusetts with her husband, three boys and medium brown dog, Billy, but sees D.C. as "home."

Sign up for Carolyn Hax’s column, delivered to your inbox early each morning.

Chat with Carolyn

Tackle your problems with Carolyn every Friday from noon until she falls on her keyboard. Plus dip into her deep archives.

Nick Galifianakis

See more of Nick’s artwork