Carolyn Hax

Washington, D.C.

Advice columnist

Education: Harvard University, BA in history and literature

Carolyn Hax started her advice column in 1997, after five years as a copy editor and news editor in Style and none as a therapist. The column includes cartoons by “relationship cartoonist” Nick Galifianakis — Carolyn's ex-husband — and appears in over 200 newspapers. Besides the daily column, Carolyn has a weekly live online discussion (noon Fridays). She is on Twitter, @carolynhax, and
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Need advice? Join Carolyn Hax’s weekly chat (Jan. 7 | 12 p.m. ET)

Advice columnist Carolyn Hax answers your questions about the strange train we call life.

January 7, 2022

Should I put child controls on my 15-year-old’s phone? Carolyn Hax readers give advice.

Carolyn Hax readers give advice to a parent who wants to know if they should put child controls on a 15-year-old's phone.

December 22, 2021

Carolyn Hax: Wife starts a business; husband starts to crack under financial pressure

He feels resentful that their family’s financial security is falling exclusively on his shoulders as his wife starts her new business.

December 22, 2021

Carolyn Hax: She wrote a novel with her cheating ex as a villain. Is he stuck in this role?

He cheated on his wife and impregnated his affair partner. His now-ex wrote him into her novel as the villain. Is he stuck in this role?

December 21, 2021

Carolyn Hax: How to feel more affection for ‘very annoying’ 14-year-old son

A parent feels guilty about their frustration with their 14-year-old son who “seems to adore one thing: contradicting every statement I make.”

December 20, 2021

Carolyn Hax: Parents are upset by news of adult daughter’s eating disorder relapse

Their adult daughter recently started binging and purging again. As parents, can they “state our preferences” about her behavior in their home?

December 19, 2021

Carolyn Hax: Parents try to control adult child’s connection to extended family

Parents are upset their adult child has reconnected with an estranged aunt, but they won't explain why.

December 18, 2021

Carolyn Hax chat: Looking back at 2021 (Dec. 17 | 12 p.m. ET)

Advice columnist Carolyn Hax answers your questions about the strange train we call life.

December 17, 2021

Carolyn Hax: Teens are tired of their dad’s inattention, but he won’t hear of it

A dad will often pace around or look at his phone when his teens open up to him, then wonder why they're upset. His spouse doesn't know what to do.

December 17, 2021

Carolyn Hax: How to ask groom’s ‘tightwad’ parents — tactfully! — to help pay for reception?

The bride’s parents will be paying for the wedding and reception. Is there a tactful way to ask the groom’s parents to contribute?

December 16, 2021