Carolyn Hax

Washington, D.C.

Advice columnist

Education: Harvard University, BA in history and literature

Carolyn Hax started her advice column in 1997, after five years as a copy editor and news editor in Style and none as a therapist. The column includes cartoons by “relationship cartoonist” Nick Galifianakis — Carolyn's ex-husband — and appears in over 200 newspapers. Besides the daily column, Carolyn has a weekly live online discussion (noon Fridays). She is on Twitter, @carolynhax, and
Latest from Carolyn Hax

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Advice columnist Carolyn Hax answers your questions about the strange train we call life.

January 21, 2022

Carolyn Hax: Mother-in-law is all social media, no action on seeing grandchild

Mother-in-law barely visited pre-covid and refuses to video call now, but still complains loudly on social media about missing her toddler grandchild.

January 17, 2022

Carolyn Hax: The parents of their son’s friend seem to be ducking invitations

Neighboring families have sons who play together sometimes, but one of the families is less responsive to invitations--and the other is feeling rejected.

January 16, 2022

Carolyn Hax: Should a parent limit son’s screen time to force him to play outside?

Son will sometimes choose screen time over playing outside with a friend. Is it time to set limits on screens?

January 15, 2022

Carolyn Hax chat: I can’t stop comparing myself to my ‘superstar’ friend

Advice columnist Carolyn Hax answers your questions about the strange train we call life.

January 14, 2022

Carolyn Hax: Daughter’s first serious boyfriend is openly cruel to her mom

Daughter’s first serious boyfriend dotes on her but is "awful" to you. Speak up, or just be grateful she's happy?

January 14, 2022

Carolyn Hax: Burned-out lawyer resigns, but second-guessers won’t quit

A law partner quits an exhausting job, but people won't quit with their "unwanted and unwelcome" commentary on that decision.

January 13, 2022

Am I enabling my daughter who lives at home rent-free? Carolyn Hax readers give advice.

Carolyn Hax readers give advice to a parent who is concerned they're enabling their daughter by allowing her to live at home without paying rent.

January 12, 2022

Carolyn Hax: Partner is ‘overwhelmed with anxiety,’ denies it’s a problem and won’t get help

A partner's anxiety means "a lot of fear, a lot of control, and uncontrolled emotional outbursts” — and a refusal to get help.

January 12, 2022

Carolyn Hax: Overworked, burnt-out caregiver looks for ways to be kind again

Working full-time from home plus caregiving plus zero breaks leads to burnout -- and regrettable "nasty" mood.

January 11, 2022