Carolyn Hax

Washington, D.C.

Advice columnist

Education: Harvard University, BA in history and literature

Carolyn Hax started her advice column in 1997, after five years as a copy editor and news editor in Style and none as a therapist. The column includes cartoons by “relationship cartoonist” Nick Galifianakis — Carolyn's ex-husband — and appears in over 200 newspapers. Besides the daily column, Carolyn has a weekly live online discussion (noon Fridays). She is on Twitter, @carolynhax, and
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Advice columnist Carolyn Hax answers your questions about the strange train we call life.

December 3, 2021

Carolyn Hax: Husband with low self-esteem lashes out at negative feedback

At any mention of something he could help with or improve on, this husband reacts like he's being told "he is the worst person in the world.”

November 28, 2021

Carolyn Hax: Subject of too-filtered, too-flattering photo wants it taken down

She edited about 10 years off their photo, made them look "amazing" and posted it online — is it okay to ask her to take it down?

November 27, 2021

Carolyn Hax: Bride dumps her ‘moody’ best friend; are her other friends disposable, too?

After a bride dumps her best friend — whose father is dying — for being "moody" at her wedding, another friend worries she is disposable, too.

November 26, 2021

Carolyn Hax: They’re having twins! And she’s freaking out.

A pregnant woman struggles with first trimester symptoms, the shock of twins and the fear she’s ruining her older child's life.

November 25, 2021

I have a ‘weird inferiority complex’ around the other parents. Carolyn Hax readers weigh in.

Carolyn Hax readers give advice to a person who wonders if the inferiority complex they feel around the other preschool parents is a form of imposter syndrome.

November 24, 2021

Carolyn Hax: Is it okay to keep things from loose-lipped mother-in-law?

Is it fair to keep news of a major surgery from a mother-in-law who is often indiscreet?

November 24, 2021

Carolyn Hax: What to say to a co-worker who has a fatal disease?

A co-worker who was only an acquaintance, not a close friend, has a fatal degenerative brain disease, and it's a struggle to know what to say.

November 23, 2021

Carolyn Hax: A parent and daughter battle over an elaborate Lego creation

A parent is frustrated by 10-year-old daughter’s refusal to take down her elaborate Lego creation to allow access to the rug for cleaning.

November 22, 2021

Carolyn Hax: How to be happy for friends when you want what they have

When a friend succeeds, do we have to die a little of envy, or can the happy face we put on be real?

November 21, 2021