Sahaj Kaur Kohli

Washington, D.C.

Advice columnist

Sahaj Kaur Kohli is a therapist-in-training and the creator of Brown Girl Therapy.
Latest from Sahaj Kaur Kohli

Ask Sahaj: My girlfriend’s parents disapprove of our queer relationship

By the time I met her, she had been operating under a “don’t ask, don’t tell” policy with her immigrant parents for a decade.

June 30, 2022

Ask Sahaj: My grandparents died. How do I keep their culture alive?

My grandparents were my tie to India, my reason for going back every year. How do I keep my connection to my culture alive when they are not?

June 23, 2022

Ask Sahaj: Can I be friends with my ex if my partner doesn’t like it?

If my boyfriend truly trusted me, I don’t think he would have a problem with me being friends with my ex.

June 9, 2022

Ask Sahaj: How do I reconcile old habits with my new life in the U.S.?

My new habits, along with a life in a new country, still feel foreign to me.

May 26, 2022

Ask Sahaj: I was ghosted by a lifelong friend. How do I move on?

I have been grieving for months.

May 19, 2022

Ask Sahaj: I’m realizing my parents’ discipline was emotional abuse

Their primary form of discipline when I was growing up was the silent treatment, where they wouldn’t acknowledge my existence for days, weeks or months.

May 12, 2022

Ask Sahaj: How can I get my husband and son to fix their relationship?

I am heartbroken over the rift (which is not a complete estrangement).

May 5, 2022

Ask Sahaj: My in-laws don’t approve of me. Can we ever get along?

Do I continue creating boundaries that keep me sane? Or, because “they’re family,” I should try to come to some resolution?

April 28, 2022

Ask Sahaj: When is it time to quit a new therapist?

I’ve been with my therapist for a few months, and I don’t feel as if we’re making progress.

April 14, 2022

Ask Sahaj: My friend has become insufferable. What do I do?

I feel guilty because this is an old friend, but I’ve found our conversations to be such a bummer.

March 24, 2022