Sahaj Kaur Kohli

Washington, D.C.

Advice columnist

Sahaj Kaur Kohli is a mental health professional and the creator of Brown Girl Therapy.
Latest from Sahaj Kaur Kohli

Ask Sahaj: Longtime friends and co-workers keep mispronouncing my name

A reader is frustrated by long-time friends and co-workers who continue to mispronounce and misspell their name and the names of their family members.

September 29, 2022

Ask Sahaj: How do I get over my ‘unshakeable fear’ of being dumped?

A 24-year-old struggles with "an unshakeable fear of being dumped" as she navigates her relationship with her boyfriend of three years.

September 22, 2022

Ask Sahaj: My boyfriend’s family speaks another language in front of me

A reader feels left out of important conversations and isn't sure what to do

September 15, 2022

Ask Sahaj: My mom won’t stop venting to me about my dad

A reader tries to give advice to their mom when she vents about arguments with their father, but they feel like they're in the middle of their parents' problems.

September 8, 2022

Ask Sahaj: I don’t know what to do with my career or the rest of my life

A 25-year-old struggles with indecision over their life plan and figuring out how to enjoy where they are.

September 1, 2022

Ask Sahaj: My sibling and I aren’t close. How can I change that?

We’re so stuck in our reserved dynamic that it feels difficult to get out of it.

August 18, 2022

Ask Sahaj: My mom can’t deal with emotions. How do I stop resenting her?

My mom has her own trauma she’s never dealt with.

August 11, 2022

Ask Sahaj: I grew up pleasing others. Now I don’t know my own values.

I thought living on my own would be liberating, but it has been the opposite: I find myself constantly feeling lost, indecisive and empty.

August 4, 2022

Ask Sahaj: It’s time to lean into discomfort and share our stories

Advice columnist and mental health professional Sahaj Kaur Kohli is ready to help you navigate mental health, identity and relationships.

August 2, 2022

Ask Sahaj: My White, liberal in-laws don’t understand racial issues

I’m a first-generation Latina woman, and I don’t know if I can broach the topic without being misunderstood.

July 28, 2022